Is first impression TRULY the best impression?

I'm sure many people will have different views on this topic, but a blog is about one's own opinions (DUH), so I'm going to be writing about what I personally think. I'm also pretty sure that I'm right (tee hee)...

And my answer to 'Is first impression truly the best impression?' is NO.


I have reasons of my own to defend my answer which will explain as to why I thinks so.

Firstly, the first impression that we have of a person could be anytime, maybe when the person is in a really awkward situation, bad mood, maybe when they're really mad or maybe when they're really sad. Basically, they're in situations where they might not be on their best behavior. And it's pathetic judging someone when he/she is not what he/she is like usually... What if someone did that to you?

Secondly, on a first meeting, people are not very likely to give away what they actually are like. 
When you think about it, would you really judge a person based on your first impression about them even after you see  how different he/she is in your next meetings with them? I don't think so.

Thirdly, what if the person changed after the first time you met him/her? The person might have become better/worse, maybe due to some experiences which he/she had. It would seem really stupid of us to consider first impressions in those cases. 

Another reason why I don't think first impressions work is because one might end up hurting someone because of them. Sometimes, we do hurt people unintentionally. We might blurt out what our first impression on someone is ( by mistake, of course) and if the person in question gets to know about it, he/she might get really hurt. And we would seem like the bad ones if the person isn't actually like that!! 

A lot of people who did not know me well enough and had formed an opinion about me thought I was extremely rude and had loads of attitude. But actually, I'm just not comfortable meeting new people. But now, those very people are my closest buddies. 
Ironically, people whom I liked and trusted from the very beginning turned out to be the bad ones, those who might adore you when you're around and badmouth you in public. All this did hurt me a lot but now I'm over it and usually don't make opinions on people very soon.

When I meet someone I don't know, I usually don't have any impression about them, maybe because I think that I'm never going to meet them, or because I don't have the time to form any opinions about them in my mind, and sometimes just because I don't want to repeat my mistakes. Sometimes, in first meetings, when I've spent enough time with the person that I can judge him/her, I do form opinions (it's human nature), but I also tell myself that the person might be completely different from what I'm thinking. In this way, I'm free of guilt. 

Yes, there might be times when first impressions count, maybe when you're giving an interview and need to be as amiable as possible. And I'd totally encourage you to do that. But in situations where all this isn't important, and you weren't your usual self, don't worry! Because:

1) You might not meet those people ever again, so WHO CARES! They're very likely to forget you!(If that's what worries you)
2) You might meet them enough times to prove that you're actually a whole lot better than what they thought.
3) They might still have the same impression of you after a lot of meetings, but those sort of people aren't WORTH IT!

You might also want to be careful while judging people the first time you meet them, because you don't want someone to do the same thing with you!

Thank you for reading! HIGHLY APPRECIATED!!

MELEAGRIS

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Asking and Answering stupid questions : Escape strategy.

Sometimes I wonder how to reply to amazingly stupid questions. As the person awaits an answer, I take to marvel at the extreme stupidity of the person who asked me the question. Usually, I fail to formulate an answer with the right combination of words so as to level with the genius that I face, so I stay silent. I then decide to take refuge in a simple action - just pat them on the shoulder out of pity with a sad expression on my face - which says it all. 



But usually, I just stay silent because :
 1) I do not want to hurt them
 2) I cannot reply out of shock
 3)  I do not know how to answer the question, because in most cases , the person is extremely stupid and I don't know how to explain the answer to the person.
So all I do is stare at them with widely opened (beautiful) eyes and then turn away and pretend not to understand.

The funny thing is that I adopt the same technique when I'm on the other side of the table. In situations where I know I'm completely wrong and there is no way I can defend my action (like when I lose an important document that I'm supposed to hand in to my teacher), I just give the person/persons a wide smile (my best smile) so that they get confused by my amazing smile, their heart melts and all they want to do is give me a great big hug. But they don't want to  in most cases even though I intend for them to. They're just extremely taken aback by my audacity of smiling hard when I've made a big mistake, they get confused and wonder as to why I'm smiling and forget the matter for a few minutes,  and that's when the situation is in my hands. On rare occasions, however, I do give a small explanation and stare at them brightly, and then follow it up with a smile, which gives me the same results. Which works just  well too.

According to me, every person should experiment with this, because most NORMAL human beings fall into such situations.

MELEAGRIS :) 

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Small Thought - Vast Meaning

Well, don't most of us think that what we believe ourselves to be is what we are in reality? Take a look at this picture and think twice! I say this from experience. I, too, have always held the belief that if I, and only I, am convinced of my good nature, it will project itself in my personality by default. 
         But, here's the thing. If I just believe that I am genuinely nice to people and couldn't do any better to benefit them, it will ONLY lead me to being the way I am (no chance of improvement!). I might regard myself as an honest, forthright and a determined human being, but am I doing something about it? Maybe. But that hardly fills a tiny fraction of the glass. I try and go ahead to improve myself and my actions with the self-delusion that I'm already a pretty good person; I mean, look at that girl! At least I'm not as morally/intellectually/socially low-graded as her. And now I think to myself, who am I to judge? There's probably somebody else forming the exact same opinion about me! 
     So what do I do? I first admit to myself that I've got a long way to go before I can claim to be a morally/intellectually/socially perfect human being. And then I fix my imperfections through seemingly trivial actions. I say 'seemingly' because as trivial  as they may be, they are, in fact, the drops that fill "the glass". And that's what matters, because just thinking about something and doing nothing about it is not going to take you or anyone anywhere. It merely proves that you are lying to yourself! Nothing can hinder your development more than self-deceit. But once you recognize your flaws and start doing something, making an effort to achieve self-perfection, you will have successfully opened the door to happiness.. And I truly believe that being happy with oneself is the best feeling in the world!!!
I'm pretty sure this is something you probably have already come to terms with, but it helps to give it a thought every now and then, so that your memory is refreshed in the midst of your extremely busy lives. Also, when you remember something you had forgotten, it makes you even more determined to follow it!!! 

Well, this picture gave me something to think about, something that I'd like to incorporate into my life. Hope it did the same for you ;)

MELEAGRIS